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Of Fathers and Flags

By Oliver North
Host, “War Stories”/Former Marine Lt. Colonel

Just about everyone in America knows that Sunday, June 15, is Father’s Day. The “Day for Dads” has been celebrated on the third Sunday of June since 1966, when President Lyndon Johnson decreed it to be so. Those who make and sell power tools and greeting cards have been grateful ever since. Somehow, it just isn’t the same for June 14th — Flag Day — and by no coincidence, the U.S. Army’s anniversary.

Father’s Day is traditionally memorialized with gifts, cards and calls for dear old dad. Flag Day is all but forgotten. But this year, with the holidays as close as they ever get, there is good reason to celebrate both. As you read this column, tens of thousands of American dads are wearing our country’s flag on their shoulders, helmets or flak jackets while serving far from home under some of the most difficult and dangerous conditions imaginable.

Scores of books have been written about the diminished respect accorded American fathers in our culture. Dads are derided and denigrated in everything from cartoons to commercials. For decades our entertainment industry and mainstream media have been depicting dads as everything from bumbling buffoons to pathological predators. The dads of “Little House on the Prairie” and “Bonanza” have all passed from the scene. And just like those iconic, heroic dads of yesteryear, waving the flag has gone out of style.

Oh sure, there was that brief flurry of flag-waving in the aftermath of 9/11. We can still find on the Internet, images of soot-covered firemen hanging the Stars and Stripes at the shattered wreckage of the World Trade Center or on the fire-scorched west wall of the Pentagon. And some of us can still recall commuting to work beneath bridges and overpasses on which patriots had draped Old Glory in defiance toward those who brought terror to our shores. But like good fathers, that too has passed. We even have a candidate for president who is acclaimed for refusing to wear an American flag on his lapel.

It sometimes seems as though the only place where you can see our flag and a good strong dad together is on — and in — a uniform. Rest assured, neither will get the respect or admiration they deserve from Hollywood or the so-called mainstream media.

Despite today’s depressing portrayal of paternity and patriotism, there is actually hope for the future and it comes from those now serving in our Armed Forces. In the process of conducting hundreds of interviews for the book “American Heroes” — both here in the United States and overseas — it became clear that today’s military dads have a lot going for them that their civilian counterparts simply don’t. Though recent headlines have hyped spiraling divorce, child abuse, suicide and domestic violence rates in our Armed Forces, the actual statistics for all these “adverse factors” are considerably lower in our military than they are for a similar age-group in the civilian population.

When I visit U.S. military bases with our FOX News “War Stories” documentary unit, I frequently have the opportunity to ask elementary and secondary school children, “What does your dad do?” Though dad may have been gone for months and ten thousand miles from home, the responses are overwhelmingly affirmative: “My dad drives a tank” or “my dad flies a plane” or “my dad makes a ship go.” At Camp Lejeune, North Carolina two weeks ago, a seven-year-old told me, “My dad is a Marine platoon sergeant. He’s fighting for our country in Afghanistan.”

You don’t have to be old enough to remember Art Linkletter’s “Kid’s Say The Darndest Things” to know that unless dad is a fireman or a cop, most young people haven’t the foggiest idea what dad does all day at work. While these anecdotes are hardly scientific evidence, they do tend to amplify real differences between military and civilian dads.

Today’s military dads are all volunteers. They are brighter, better educated and in far better physical condition than their civilian peers. Notwithstanding the extraordinary hardship of repeated, prolonged separations, the inevitable stress of combat and the danger and uncertainty attached to their “work,” they generally express greater “job satisfaction” than their non-military counterparts. Though war-time deployments shift most of the burden for child-rearing onto their mothers, the children of military dads express greater certainty and admiration for what their fathers do than their non-military peers.

Does any of this make a military dad better than a civilian father? Certainly not. But in an age when our media disparages fatherhood in general and defames those who wear uniforms in particular, this would be a good weekend to go ahead and wave the flag and thank God for fathers who are willing to serve.

Oliver North hosts War Stories on FOX News Channel and is the author of the new best-seller, “American Heroes: In The War Against Radical Islam.”

8 Responses to “Of Fathers and Flags”

Comment by Ann & Neatie

I couldn’t have been said more clearly. These things need to be shouted from the roof tops and so few will do it. Thank you Colonel North. Also, in case you didn’t notice, and I think nothing gets by you, a certain candidate also had the dumbest message I have ever heard to fathers on fathers day. Maybe that message was needed for the crowd voting for him but the it would have been nice to hear a message about the great dad’s of America instead of that drivel. But flags and good dads do go together as you say. A respect for our founding fathers wouldn’t hurt any either and the Constitution of this great land. Seems many are in the dark about a lot of things now days, Colonel North. Keep on shouting out the true and we who hear will shout it on down the line. You are appreciated. May God help us all to see the truth and stand up and fight , do whatever needs to be done, to get this country back on track. We thank our Military every day. They are superior to the general public as far as we are concerned.

 
Comment by Eagle Stone

OLIVER NORTH FOR PRESIDENT.

 
Comment by David E. Johnson

Let’s not forget the young men who never became fathers because they unselfishly gave their lives to protect and defend our way of life. Mothers, daughters and sons remember the sacrifice made by would be fathers when called to duty by this great country of ours.

 
Comment by Don in California

Col. North,
I am a retired member of the U.S. Air Force and proud of it. I highly respect you and your opinions. Thank you for the great service you gave this country and are still giving.

God Bless the U.S.A.

 
Comment by Jim

Drug dealer, lies to congress, and Fox gives him his own show. The laughs just keep on coming with your guys.

 
Comment by Jim

This site is “Moderated” . GIVE ME A BREAK!

 
Comment by Don in California

Jim,
You must have watched a different version of Col. North’s testimony. I watched it all and never saw him convicted of drug dealing or lying to Congress.

God Bless America

 
Comment by Allie

The article by Oliver North is the naked truth about our country. I grew up in the 30’s and 40’s and remember World War II and the undivided support given to our troops and their families. We were proud of our young men and proud of our country. Those days are here no more and it breaks my heart to see the disappearance of morality, pride and common decency from our lives. When I was growing up, there was never any need to lock your doors at any time. We didn’t even have keys to the doors in our house. Can’t do that today!
My grandson has just volunteered to go back to Iraq for the third time because he says that our troops are making a difference to so many people.

God bless America!
Allie

 

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